ALWAYS MY CHILD

“My dream is that being gay will be accepted and supported by all in the community, or at least the majority of people, so that gay people never have to be afraid or rejected or suffer any discrimination.”

My Child Is Gay:
How Parents React When They Hear the News
By Bryce McDougall

If you have a son and one day he tells you that she is lesbian, what would you do? Will you act against her or understand the way she is?

I believe that there’s true love among GLBT couples. There are not only the loves from their spouses but also the true love from their parents. The acceptances from parents are needed here.

I think the most supporting that could encourage the GLBT to live their lives happily has first come from the family. Some parents truly believe that their children were born in the wrong body at the wrong time. Some parents blame the way they raise their child. Still, there are parents that really understand the way their children are. Keeping your children in struggling about their genders is a risk; your children will be isolated. Don’t let them face the problem on their own. Being GLBT is not unusual. I think they are friendlier than those men and women. They are truly open-minded and easy-going. But the parents did not give them a chance to express their feelings.

If the parents tried to change their children to be the so called “normal people”, their children would not be able to true to themselves in front of parents’ eyes. This will become more discourage them to survive in the world. It will affect their habits to be scared of expressing themselves, instead of being proud of the way they are. Understanding the way they are as GLBT would make them feel comfortable to talk to you no matter what trouble they are facing.

When I first hear the phrase “you are always your parent’s child, no matter what you are”, I really feel that this is the true love of parents. Let’s celebrate for GLBT that there are more and more acceptances from the parents and the society nowadays.

Pawinee(Pik)

Gay Parents

What are you going to do if one day your mother tells you that she is lesbian?

What are you going to do if one day your father tells you that he is gay?

For some reasons, GLBT people have to hide themselves and let a tradition controls who they are and what they want. Many of them get married and find out later that they can’t live with their spouses. Some of them notice that they are not happy living with the opposing sex and become GLBT after marriage. Whatever reasons can cause a problem for their marriage’s life. After finding out, some GLBT people still hide themselves in order to keep their family life while some of them choose to show who they really are.

I think it’s a good idea for GLBT people to expose themselves and tell their kids the truth. Some kids might don’t understand and can’t accept at first but finally they have to.

I have a friend who lives with her father. They love each other a lot. When she was 17, she realized that a person she calls “Papa” is a woman. She cried a lot but I was afraid of asking her why she cried so much. Was she shame? Was she angry? I still can’t figure out but what I know now is she has to accept that she has a lesbian mother and has to continue living.

Do you think GLBT parents should keep their feeling in mind continuing being parents or tell their kids the truth?

In another point, some GLBT people who live together as a couple might want to have kids. The problem is they can’t do that because of a natural reason. But if they really want to have children, they can adopt any kids from an orphanage. Some people think that GLBT people are abnormal so they can’t be good parents. But I disagree. Gender is not the most important factor makes good parents.

Love is the most important. I believe that people can do anything best if they do with love. It doesn’t matter if two men will be parents. They can play that role well as long as they love to do that. They are couple but just different from normal couples because they are in male’s body. After all, they are humans, just like us.

Do you think GLBT people can be good parents?

By Tipawan

Coming out

When I was searching for a new topic for our blog I came across this, “I want to tell my mother that I love another woman.” And why don’t you? Because even if one admits and embraces one’s homosexuality others might still not.

It’s natural that people want to talk about their loved ones, the people they want to spend the rest of their lives with or sometimes just the here and now. Does a woman who has a relationship with another woman has the picture of her girlfriend on her desk in her office, it’s unlikely. Maybe in some countries where gay rights are advanced this might be ok, but in many countries this would not happen. “Coming Out” is possible when there is a general acceptance; even then it is sometimes hard. We now that GLBT have the need to express themselves just like any other group, they might have their own dress code, hairstyle, fashion, and other preferences that hint that they are gay. The need of expression is a need everyone has, going out and walk hand in hand with one’s boy/girlfriend is normal. Is it normal if gay people do it? Do others turn around and talk behind their backs? In many societies people cannot dress “gay” to work, and cannot openly admit that they have a relationship with a person that has the same gender. However, if gay people do not actively expand the room where they can be who they are, being gay publicly does not become the norm either. Basically “coming out” is just a step towards what should be “normal” at the first place, GLBT being themselves.

By Swan

The acceptance of being Queer in Thailand

If being a popular beautiful actress is a girl’s dream, being a Tiffany performer will definitely be a transvestite’s ambition, too.

Tiffany show is a well-known Transvestite Cabaret Show located in Pattaya, Thailand. It is the one of the most famous tourist attractions in Pattaya and can make excellent income for our country.

Being a Tiffany entertainer is not easy. They have to be recruited like other jobs because they have to be talented and beautiful. Some of them try very hard to have a woman physique such as have done a nose surgery, breasts implant, or even a sex-changed operation. But lots of them seem like they just was born in the wrong sex because the have sweet pretty face, nice complexion and small body like girls.

Tiffany performers are not only beautiful but also skillful. They are dancing experts such as Thai dancing, Latin, Ballet or Jazz. If you have a chance to see them on the stage, you will see how amazing they are. I have seen the show once, it is excellent, the scenes are nice, the costumes are marvelous; the actresses are beautiful and well-performed. Tiffany show is perfect!

Tiffany‘s Show is ranked the 4th place for "the Top 10 Show around the World in 2001" awarded by TravelCom Magazine, May 2001,
( Reference; http://www.pattayadailynews.com/showfeature.php?FeatureID=0000000077)

Are you interested in Tiffany show? For more information and make a reservation; visit http://www.tiffany-show.co.th/

Thailand seems to be a conservative country. But now we understand and accept the lady boys if they want to dress or act like women. I think it’s okay as long as they are well-behaved and don’t do harm our society. It’s different from some countries that being a transvestite and dress like women looks weird in other people views.

There are some transvestites in Thailand who are accepted as talented people such as a make-up artist; Ma Ornnapa, a gifted Thai language teacher; Kru Lily or a famous actress, Koko Kokorn. I think it’s a good idea to judge someone by their ability rather than their sexual orientation.

By Cherry 490132052

Gay Rape

I read the news from the Thai Rath newspaper on April 6, 2007. It was about a transgendered boy who was robbed and raped on the way home and afterward went to the police station to inform the police, hoping that they would help him. I think what he had just suffered was bad enough for him but what he got back from the policemen was worse - teasing smiles. The police thought that it was impossible and ridiculous for a male to be raped. After reading that news, it made me think that now is the time people have to care more about those people we call “the third gender” or GLBT people.

In Thailand, people usually think that rape can happen only to females but they forget the truth that anything bad can happen to anyone and when it happens, no one can deny it. It’s true that we don’t really hear about gay rape very often in Thailand but it doesn’t mean that things like that have never happened. Although transgendered people they are in between male and female, which is unusual for many people, it does not mean that they want what male and female do not want. Everyone who is raped will have the same feeling. Rape is an act of sexual intercourse that is forced, and no one, gay or straight, will feel happy being forced to have sex.

I have read that the Thai Legislative Assembly is planning to change the law in order to protect GLBT people more from rape and other serious crimes. I am glad to hear that because at least Thai people are showing more concern about GLBT issues. I hope this law will be adopted really soon and then the problem will be reduced.

Do you think GLBT people need the law to protect them?

Do you think gay people have to be protected while he is a man who is supposed to be as strong as the other man?

Can the law really help decrease the incidence rape?

By Tipawan

490132042

Integration versus separation

NZZ am Sonntag, wedding announcement


Same sex map Europe

http://de.wikipedia.org/wiki/Bild:Samesex_Map_Europe.png

Light green: Same sex marriages
Dark green: Partnerships
Grey: in consideration of amendments


On June 5, 2005 Swiss citizens voted for the new Partnership law (Partnerschaftsgesetz PartG), which makes a legal registration for homosexual couples possible and that nation wide. Of course, some of the conservative catholic cantons did not agree with the majority and voted against the amendment. It past anyway. It took Switzerland quite some time to get to the point where an actual vote was possible. Switzerland gradually worked on the acceptance and the integration of lesbians and gays which eventually lead to legal changes and the 58% yes vote to same sex partnerships. It is true that they have come a long way and that the battle towards equality continues, but the wide acceptance throughout the social stratum creates a solid basis.


Integration is important, Gay art needs to be available for heterosexuals,

integration means, no hidden gay cinemas, theaters, and art shows. Lesbians and gay men do not necessarily need their own political parties but the opportunity to enter existing ones without being discriminated. In some societies the gay scene is still disconnected and hidden from society’s surface, they are forced to live underground. The scene exists but is pushed away or separated from the “norm”. And that has to change.

Book: Rechte der Lesben und Schwulen in der Schweiz

( Rights for Lesbians and Gay men in Switzerland)

Lesbians and gay men and their parents, even in Switzerland, still have to put up with discrimination, although it has become more indirect but still vicious. Statistics show that suicide rates among same sex oriented boys is higher than for heterosexual boys (Switzerland: http://www.los.ch/). Even in a country where there are laws against discrimination and there is a general acceptance towards homosexuals there still seems to be enough pressure that leads to such desperate acts as suicide. So, let’s think about the people who live in countries where there are no same sex partnerships or marriages, no laws against discrimination and society’s willingness towards acceptance that makes integration possible.

By Swan.

GLBT: workplace discrimination

Last night, I watched the movie “Family Stone”. The sentence that created the huge argument in the Stone’s family is “Our ordinary lives are already complicated. Don’t GLBT have the more pressured and more complicated lives than us?” These are words from an outsider of the Stones, which make everyone hates her. Thad Stone is a gay child who is luckily accepted by his family members. What would happen if he was not accepted in the work place?


Most people assume that the third sex people (Gay, Lesbian, Bisexuals, Transgender, etc.) are psychological illness. In fact, there is a study that guarantees the GLBT is not the illness but it occurs from their genes. Some workplace, especially those government offices in Thailand, denies hiring the GLBT employees without considering about their abilities. There is some particular job that anti-GLBT. For example, a teacher could not be GLBT; the school claimed that a teacher should be a good model for the students.


I have a friend who graduated with 1st honor majored in Information studies; he is very optimistic, cheerful, genius. I used to ask him what is his motive for being such a diligent student, he answered, “Being a gay disappointed my parents, and I would not let them down with my education.” He has a dream being a teacher, but he cannot get a job in any government university. Therefore, he goes for the Master degree in Bangkok, wishing it would provide him more chance getting his dream job.

I felt that it was not fair for who is ingenious but don’t have any chance promoted for the higher positions. Therefore, the GLBT are mostly found running their businesses in order to avoid the workplace discrimination.

Why couldn’t the Thai government be more impartial for the GLBT? Are they any safe workplace for them in our society?


Pawinee (Pik)